Savour the flavour Karyn Fletcher


I knew  things  had  taken a  turn for the  worse when I noticed on the  shelf  of my local supermarket that you can buy a  marinade that only takes 30 seconds to do the  job.  I felt not a little disappointed, I have to admit. It seemed another step to even more things being done at super-fast speed.  No one seems willing to wait, even for meat or fish to marinade.

To my mind  the whole nature of marinating something is about giving the  combination of different complementary flavours time to meet and connect in a significant  way with  whatever  it has  been  splashed  or   brushed  onto.  After a couple of hours when you cook the marinated item the taste is altogether different from either the ingredients that were combined or the meat or fish’s native flavour. The texture is tender and quite delicious- and worth waiting for, if I do say so myself, coming from a long line of marinaders

The work we  do as therapists is a mixture  of many ‘flavours’  understanding  self , understanding the  ‘other’, getting sense  of the  whole system, the  energy between the  two people in the  room. The nuances  of  this deeper way of working and connecting builds  trust  and  confidence so that together  the work of  both parties  has  altogether  its own  uniqueness in the relationship. This is hard to do  without  our full hearted attention and  enough time as we attune  our inner ear to hear our  own note as much as adjusting to the  other’s music , manner  and meaning. These don’t happen in the blink of an eye. In fact if we rush we risk losing sight of what a slowing down of our pace can yield.  Shortcuts, quick routes, one  click service  all seems  to be  pushing us to everything quicker so that we  can do even more stuff quicker. Why? 

There is a well known quote line about taking time to smell the roses. I often hear people use it in a retrospective manner about what they could have, should have done.  It is a good line to take to heart (and action) before something occurs to make us nostalgic about the roses we may have missed along the way. In truth it is never too late to start paying some slow attention, especially now in June. As it goes roses are coming into their own pretty soon. You can’t rush a rose.  It’s worth the wait when they arrive in full bloom. 

So what are you doing that could use a little marination in your life? A little slow cooking? What if for even a little time you went the slow route rather than the fast?  A stroll rather than a trot? It seems to me that the end of our lives comes roaring up all too quickly. Why should we race there?  

For the  next two  weeks: pick one activity in your normal schedule and  do it but do it slowly and with full attention in to whatever it is, whether  brushing your teeth, peeling an orange  walking to work. Look, and appreciate. Leave it to soak in and really be with it.

And if anyone wants a jolly good BBQ marinade then I’m your girl.

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